Is there anything you’d like to change in your life?

But somehow it evades you and you keep on playing the same “song” over and over again. You keep on eating the wrong food, it seems impossible to get to the gym, anger rears its ugly head much too often, you’re jealous and can’t seem to shake it off.

Why is it so hard to do things that are actually quite easy to do once you get your head around them?

Well there are lots of reasons why, some of them are because of external circumstances, but I would say that the real reason is Internal.

Many people believe that it is because of the way we think and that if we change our thinking then these deeply held habits will disappear. However, the way we think is a by-product of deeply held patterns in our body and nervous systems due to our past experiences and many other factors all contributing to our experience here and now.

You change these physiological patterns and you automatically think differently not the other way around.

At a very superficial level you can do it the other way around, through thinking effect change in the physiology, but usually this is not so effective for healing deeply held habit patterns. And this is why there is a worldwide trend for those in the helping professions incorporating somatic practices to help heal trauma and emotional difficulties. Talk therapy just doesn’t do it. Thinking positive for many people is stressful and may even be counter productive.

The unfortunate circumstance that we find ourselves in is that there has been so much misinformation often from the people who call themselves experts and have actually created a right mess in the world. This idea of “positive thinking” perhaps has created a greater dichotomy resulting in a split personality where we try and be positive however the underlying forces within us due to our past experiences are actually running the show.

So we have been taught to pretend to act as if, to fake it until we make it, and thus we have become a fake society all pretending to be something other than what we are. This has dire consequences that we are now witnessing in the world today.

One of the keys for change to happen and for us to heal is awareness. To use our consciousness to become aware this is the way and it has been the very thing that society in the past has been teaching us to avoid. Thank goodness that there is a resurgence of mindfulness practices. There may be hope for us still.

The Hara Health Exercises are one such somatic practice that effects change in the nervous system. It incorporates the key ingredient of awareness to bring about healing in the physiology and thus has a ripple effect in our thinking, our emotions and our actions.

Giving up before you’ve even started

I think we’ve all been there: we’ve signed up for a class, taken a contract out at the gym, registered for a course online … and then not used it.

We’ve had the best intentions to create better eating habits and greater health or tackle a project… and then our plans and grand schemes fall apart.

 

It seems that we are all subject to this at certain times in our lives or with certain things, for some it’s in the exercise department for others in the field of work. However, to get the greatest benefits out of something like exercise we need to do it regularly. Its no use going to the gym once a month and expect to be flexible, healthy and strong or playing the piano once and expect to be Mozart. Our body is like an amazing instrument that we can learn to play, it has so many notes and scales to explore and the Hara health exercises are a powerful way to start that exploration.

 

My suggestions are that you practice the Hara Health Exercises regularly over the next few months and if you want to get all the benefits that cultivating Hara provides then over the next few years.

 

One way to stay on track is to practice the exercises with friends at least once a week.

You could either join a group in your area or simply invite a friend around and do the exercises together.

 

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Taking on too much

We live in a world of doing, where optimism is rewarded and realism may be scorned upon. We are told to think positive by the so called experts and now we have an epidemic of stressed out people all rushing around trying to achieve and be something they are not.

These so called experts use case studies of people who are effective, productive and are the number one achievers in our world, making assumptions that are often so ludicrous one has to laugh. The sad truth of it though is that modern man seems to have been totally brainwashed by these claims and tries very hard to live by these standards. Because we are taught to think positive, to think big, we misjudge our capacities and often harm ourselves in pursuit of the “Grand”.

For many people, they don’t have, the tenacity, the negotiation skills, the sense of self to be successful, they simply don’t have the habit patterns that support success and it’s these people that actually are done a disservice when they are forced to think positive. Their nervous systems need rewiring and just trying to think themselves into being rewired is hogwash. They need to develop the habit patterns over time through experience. When in their bodies they have experienced (however small) success time and time again, and when they are supported to move through challenge instead of running away, they will start to live optimism instead of trying to think it. Optimism will be their natural mindset, a sense of possibility will be the backdrop of everything they do. And there is a difference between thinking optimistically and being optimistic, in fact they are worlds apart.

As we cultivate Hara, the nervous system is changed from the core and we develop new habit patterns that support us.

And then you may catch yourself by surprise doing things that you never imagined possible.

 

 

 

Do you crumble in the face of resistance?

You may have a habit pattern that is inbuilt through past experience that shuts you down in the face of adversity or makes you run in the opposite direction. These are not just thinking patterns but they are patterns deeply woven into your nervous system and are the default on how you operate when the going gets tough. You wonder why you may not be like the other“ GUY” that when “the going gets tough, the tough get going.”

Well each of us are brought up in different ways with different parents in communities with certain values and beliefs that are ingrained into us through example, through discipline and often through shaming and through the threat of abandonment if we don’t adhere to the societies rules and regulations. We also inherit certain qualities and habit patterns from our bloodline. And then of course there are our experiences throughout life that mold us into how we are in the world. This makes each one of us unique and wired in ways that make us who we are.

The Hara Health Exercises help in rewiring the nervous system 

As you practice the exercises regularly you will begin to experience a new found confidence, a new capacity to deal with resistance in ways that were not open to you before.

I wish you good luck in your continued exploration of the Hara.

Developing a More Flexible Mind

A flexible mind helps us to see situations and challenges in ways that help us deal with the chaos, with the obstacles, with the thousand things that need to be done. When we have resilience we don’t get caught as often in frustration, anger, disappointment, or helplessness. We don’t waste so much time and energy not wanting things to be the way that they are. 

As we work with cultivating Hara, we become more even minded and have greater capacity to pace ourselves in a way that is much more efficient and productive. We start enjoying the challenges and the journey of navigating our way through, we become more comfortable in the space of not knowing how or what the outcome is. In this way we have greater opportunities for synchronicity and for new ways to unfold, often ways that had never occurred to us or ways that seemed impossible for people like us. What’s interesting is that our narrative changes we loosen the hold of whatever story we’ve been telling ourselves. And this all comes about by doing some simple exercises that start to change us from our very core.

The Hara Health exercises also offer a set of tools that we can use in everyday life to help us release the hold of emotions like, anger, anxiety, shame, fear, disappointment, confusion.

 

The very same principles that are used in the exercises are powerful resources to practice.

 

Here’s how:

 

  1. Notice when you’re caught up.

If for example you notice yourself getting frustrated, hardening up… this is the sign that you should practice. And the good news is that practicing helps you move through the emotion quicker with awareness and over time re-patterns your nervous system making you better and less reactive. In other words having a very different experience of how that emotion manifests in your thoughts, feelings and actions.

 

Take a moment to feel the body and experiencing whatever sensations are arising. What does it feel like, physically in your body? Explore it with curiosity.

This just takes a short time perhaps 10 or 20 seconds.

 

  1. Use the legwork in the second phase of the Hara exercises.

The beauty of this is that the legwork is done in a way that even if you are in the presence of others they will not even notice what you are doing. Since you have been practicing the H2E your body will be trained to mobilize the energy and move through it and will start to release the tension and charge of the emotion.

This may mobilize you into taking some form of positive action that is appropriate in the moment, or you may remain silent bypassing a potentially explosive situation.

 

  1. You will notice the body starting to regulate.

The body will be moving into a more resourceful state and it’s a good time to notice the world around you and try to be with whatever is going on. A powerful trick to get your body to breathe more deeply and assist the regulating forces is to look around you but it’s essential to move your head as you look and take in the shapes, the colors and the people. Often your body will then take a deep breath and this is very different from you voluntarily taking a big breath, It’s chalk and cheese, there is a huge qualitative difference when your body spontaneously takes the breath.